Are you living the life you are mean’t to live? If not, why?

Are you living the life you are mean’t to live? What do I even mean by this?

I believe that we are all born for a purpose – To live our lives to the best of our abilities and to make use of the gifts that have been bestowed upon us. Unless you believe in past lives or reincarnation, we only have this life, the one we are currently living.

As we go through life we take on roles, as students, business owners, entrepreneurs, retail assistants, doctors, nurses, teachers, healers etc. We become parents, partners, daughters, carers, wives or husbands and we become defined by the roles we have taken on.

But under all these titles, have you ever wondered who you really are? What do you really want out of this one amazing life? What do you want to do with your time here on earth?

These may sound like strange questions for a Reflexologist to be asking, but I have noticed that many people I meet and also see in clinic, aren’t totally at peace with their lives. If we carry feelings of stress and disenchantment with our lives, this affects our health. We may be in jobs that we don’t really like, but feel trapped and unable to leave. We may be overcommitting ourselves, trying to be the ‘good’ person or the ‘yes’ person, but deep down resenting the drain on our energy and time. We may be dealing with negative people but can’t see a way out or know how to avoid them.

Our bodies hold our emotions and if our prominent emotions are those of fear, anger, stress or worry, changes start to happen at a cellular level. We start to live in a state of inflammation with constant chemical reactions elevating the stress response, changing our DNA and decreasing our immune systems. Over time this leads to chronic disease, anxiety and depression.

Now I’m not saying that we should live in a bubble and pretend that we’re hippies and everything is going to be fine, though that’s okay if you want to live that way. I’m asking you to consider if you can make changes in your life to improve the quality of your life.

Can you change jobs if your current one leaves you feeling anxious and sick when it comes to Monday mornings? Can you slowly start removing yourself from some of your commitments or start asking for help? Can you start saying ‘No’ to things that drain you and ‘Yes’ to things that make you feel great? Can you remove yourself from situations or people that make you feel uncomfortable.

We all go through happy and difficult times in our lives and it’s not always easy to make changes. But do you want to get to 80 or 90 or even 100 years of age and regret the things you didn’t do in life? Have a look at what’s working in your life and what isn’t. Then sit down and list the things you want to change. Then look at how this can be done and slowly start making some changes. It doesn’t have to be difficult.

I changed jobs many years ago when I became disheartened with nursing and trained to be a Reflexologist. It took time but I knew that my life needed changing. I also decided some years ago that I wanted to meditate but thought I didn’t have time. So I looked at how I could incorporate this practise into my day and I now get up 20 minutes earlier every morning. It’s become a habit and I always feel better for it. I would love to do some Qi Gong but have yet to find a class. So to make it easy, I downloaded a practise online and do this at home. It’s not quite a regular habit just yet but I’m working on it.

So what can you do that will positively impact your life? Do you need to start making enquiries about a new job? Do you need to start saying ‘No’ to people you don’t want to work with? Do you need to start valuing your time and energy and raise your fees? Do you want to start including more fun things in your life? The more we procrastinate, the further we remain from our goals.

Remember that every positive thing that you do to make you happier and improve your life, will have a positive impact on your health and wellbeing.

So start right now.

 

Warmest wishes,

Judy xxx

 

 

References: www.newscientist.com, www.forbes.com, www.jhunewsletter.com. Photo by  Gian Cescon on Unsplash.com

Disclaimer: Please note that all information in this article is the opinion of the author and obtained through her research and knowledge and the above references. It is not meant to replace medical advice and a medical opinion should always be obtained for any health condition.

Does it pay you to stay strong? ………….. If so, how?

Does it pay you to stay Strong? How does this help you?

Growing up we are told that ‘big girls/boys don’t cry. Keep that stiff upper lip, don’t be a sook or a sissy.’

It’s acceptable to a point to show our emotions as children, but once we become adults, it is often considered a sign of weakness if we ‘ wear our heart on our sleeve’.

But keeping our emotions, be it grief, trauma or sadness bottled up, only delays the inevitable. Some day you will need to face that fear or loss, or it may contribute to disease.

I lost my younger sister many years ago. Although I grieved at the time, I had a two year old son to care for so I kept going and pushed down all those traumatic emotions. I told myself that I would have time to grieve later. I stayed strong, or so I thought!

Consequently I started to overprotect those I loved and worried endlessly if someone was late home. I tended to catastrophise events out of all proportion. This only led to overwhelm. It was exhausting trying to control everything and everyone in my life. After many years and lots of support, I learnt to let go, trust and show how I felt and not bottle everything up. I never forgot, but I learnt to deal with the pain of loss.

Traditional Chinese Medicine has believed for several thousands of years, that emotions are powerful energies that strongly affect our Qi ( our life energy) and our  overall health.

In the 1980’s Dr. Candace Pert  demonstrated the link between emotions and health. Dr. Pert discovered that certain brain chemicals called neuropeptides, which she called “molecules of emotion,” act as messengers between the mind and the immune system. Her findings revealed that thoughts and emotions directly impact the physical body and our health.

In Chinese medicine our emotions are strongly linked to our organs and the process of disease.

For example, our Lungs and our Large Bowel show how easily we ‘breathe’ through life, whether we have to control everything and every body or we have the ability of letting go. Our lungs also hold grief and if we haven’t dealt with that grief,  imbalances will result in that organ. If not treated, this strong emotion may lead to disease either in the lungs or elsewhere in the body.

Our Stomach and Spleen hold worry and stress and manage our immune system and digestion. If we are constantly worrying or not dealing with the stress in our lives, we may end up with a deficiency in our immune or digestive systems.

The Kidneys hold fear and constant thoughts of fear. If we are always fearful of life and what may unfold, this leads to an imbalance in our kidney energy. In Traditional Chinese Medicine, the kidneys are our ‘life force’ and a key organ in sustaining life.

The Liver and Gall Bladder are where we hold anger, frustration or resentment. As the liver is involved in so many functions in our body, including our metabolism and energy, it pays to have a healthy liver.

Facial Reflexology detects areas of our body that are out of balance and treats these accordingly. However it also looks at the emotion behind the affected organ as many diseases are influenced by strong, repressed emotions.

So what are the benefits of staying strong? Yes it means we don’t fall in a heap or cry hysterically when something happens but who does this actually help? The people who might be embarrassed by your behaviour or does it help you? Sometimes we need to carry on until a time is suitable to grieve or deal with a trauma. However deal with it we must. No matter how painful something may be, unless we deal with it and get help to do so if we need, we will never be able to grow or move through life.

I’m not saying that it’s easy because it’s not. I know! It may be the hardest thing you have to deal with in your life. But dealing with your emotions, not always staying strong and allowing yourself to be vulnerable may just keep you healthy and living longer.

Let me know what you think. I would love to know your thoughts and if you would like a Facial Reflexology session to deal with some of these emotions, please let me know.

Warmest wishes,

Judy xxx

 

References: https://www.tcmworld.org/emotion-commotion/Image: Pixabay.com

Disclaimer: Please note that all information in this article is the opinion of the author and obtained through her research and knowledge and the above references. It is not meant to replace medical advice and a medical opinion should always be obtained for any health condition.

Can your Thoughts heal your Body?

Can the thoughts you think on a daily basis, actually heal your Body?

Can the millions of thoughts we think every day have any influence on our Health?

Many scientific studies have shown that our brains and our minds indeed, have a significant effect on how healthy we are.

One of the reasons for this is because nearly every thought we think comes with an associated emotion. If we wake up feeling positive and happy, these thoughts trigger the release of ‘feel good’ hormones that affect our body chemistry.

If on the other hand, we wake up anxious or fearful, we release stress hormones that immediately impact on our immune, digestive and cardiovascular systems.

Every thought, feeling, and emotion creates a molecule known as a neuropeptide. Neuropeptides travel throughout our body and connect with receptor sites of cells and neurons. Our brain takes in the information, converts it into chemicals, and lets our whole body know if there’s something to be feared or celebrated. Our body is therefore, directly influenced.

If we calm our mind during a practise of meditation, we are boosting essential brain chemicals such as serotonin and endorphins, which reduce anxiety and depression.

Practicing meditation also increases our body’s production of human growth hormone and reduces cortisol. Low levels of human growth hormone (HGH) have been linked to loss of muscle mass, body fat retention, heart problems and motivation issues. Cortisol is a hormone that is produced when we are under stress.  As mentioned, stress inhibits the immune system and has been shown to contribute to many diseases.

Think of the placebo effect. One of the most common theories is that the placebo effect is due to a person’s expectations. If we believe something will do what it is supposed to do, we will experience the perceived outcome. Research has shown that giving a sugar pill to someone in pain, who believes and expects that the pill will reduce the pain, actually experiences pain relief. If a person expects a pill to do something, then it’s possible that the body’s own chemistry can cause effects similar to what a medication might have caused.

Old cultures that believed in magic and witchcraft were very strongly influenced by these practices. If a person was told they had had a curse placed on them and would die, the ensuing belief and fear around this usually resulted in their death. Their thoughts influenced the chemistry in their bodies and the fear literally ate at them until they succumbed to a disease.

I recently attended a workshop with Dr. Joe Dispenza, a scientist, lecturer, teacher and author who spoke about the power of our thoughts and how we can use them to influence our lives. By the time we are 35 years old, 95% of who we are becomes a set of automatic behaviours and subconscious beliefs.  The way we act and respond to situations remains the same because we have been ‘programmed’ to act that way. It’s what we have always done.

If we constantly think the same negative thoughts, we will always have the same negative experiences.

The good news is that we can change. If we make an effort to see the positive in every situation, we can influence our health in a positive way. Scientific studies on brainwaves have shown how our brains respond to calming, happy and loving thoughts and how new neural pathways are formed in the brain.

Dr Bruce Lipton, a cell biologist, showed that our thoughts cause biochemical reactions that affect every cell in our body.

By concentrating on the good in our lives, we can bring more of that into fruition. This is not to say that nothing bad ever happens. But it’s how we respond to it, that makes all the difference. Even if we are unwell or having a horrendous day, try to switch your thoughts onto the positives in your life and give gratitude for what you have.

The sun is still shining, you have a home to go to and food on the table, you have family and friends. Yes these may seem very simple things, but if you change your thoughts to something positive in a difficult situation, you change the chemicals your body is releasing.

Regular meditation, concentrating on emotions of joy, love, gratitude and happiness, over time can indeed influence the Health of your Body.

Try it and see. I’m going to!

 

With warmest wishes,

Judy xxx

 

 

References: www.operationmeditation.com, www.webmed.com, ‘Mind over Medicine’ by Dr Lissa Rankin, www.drjoedispenza.net, ‘The Biology of Belief” by Dr Bruce Lipton, https://chopra.com/articles/harness-your-mind’s-power-to-heal-and-transform

Disclaimer: Please note that all information in this article is the opinion of the author and obtained through her research and knowledge and the above references. It is not meant to replace medical advice and a medical opinion should always be obtained for any health condition.

What does your Skin say about your Health?……………Actually quite a lot!

What does your Skin say about your Health? Actually, quite a lot!

The Skin is the largest organ in the body and has a total area of about 20 square feet. It consists of three layers; the epidermis – the outer layer which creates our skin tone, the dermis – the middle layer  which contains connective tissue, hair follicles and sweat glands, and the hypodermis – the deep inner layer which is made up of fat and connective tissue.

Our Skin reflects not just what is going on inside our bodies but also how we are feeling. Emotions such as worry, joy, grief and stress are all reflected on the face and as we age, we develop fine lines and wrinkles. These do occur over time but may also indicate an imbalance in the body.

We all know that when we feel great and relaxed, this shows up on our face. We have a healthy glow about us. On the other hand, when we are ill and suffering from a cold or virus, we look pale and tired. If we are dehydrated, our skin appears very dry but when we drink lots of water, our skin tone is improved and appears soft and supple. Our skin reflects our inner health.

Conditions such as acne, psoriasis, rosacea, pimples, eczema and dermatitis all present on the skin surface, but their causes lie within the body and can indicate the state of our health.

Acne and pimples often present during adolescence or even pregnancy due to hormonal changes in the body. They can also occur as a result of stress. A diet rich in sugar and carbohydrates can cause a flare up too.

Dermatitis and eczema usually occur due to an immune system imbalance. This can be from an allergy, sensitivity, an inherited gene, environmental factor or even stress.

Psoriasis is considered to be an autoimmune condition where there is a problem with the action and production of certain white blood cells. It may lie dormant for years only to be activated by stress.

Dry skin may indicate dehydration but may also hint at a thyroid imbalance. A bright red, flushed face may occur if your skin is very sensitive to temperature changes but may also indicate high blood pressure. Dark circles under our eyes will show that we are tired, but may also hint at a kidney or liver problem.

There are many, many skin products on the market and it is a billion dollar industry. There are all sorts of promises made about reducing fine lines and wrinkles and making you appear younger. Many products are great and will hydrate your skin and help it to retain its tone and appearance while many others won’t.

However to really improve the state of your skin, both on your face and all over your body, you need to look at the state of your health and not just the products you put on it.

Are you drinking enough water to hydrate your skin and improve its tone? Are you eating a healthy diet with lots of green vegetables to nourish your cells? Are you exercising regularly to increase circulation and oxygen to your skin? Are you finding ways to reduce stress in your life?

Our health comes from within our body – how we treat it and what we put into it. Hormone imbalances, allergies, stress and immune issues all occur within. Our Skin protects us, regulates our body temperature and allows us to feel sensations such as touch.

However the appearance of our Skin and how it looks and feels is dependent on the state of our overall Health.

So look a little deeper than ‘Skin deep’ if you want to find the real cause behind your skin issues.

Take care,

Warmest wishes,

Judy xxx

 

 

References: www.mayoclinic.org, www.webmd.com, www.healthline.com, Photo by Coline Hasle on Unsplash

Disclaimer: Please note that all information in this article is the opinion of the author and obtained through her research and knowledge and the above references. It is not meant to replace medical advice and a medical opinion should always be obtained for any health condition.

How often do you Celebrate ………… and if not, why?

How often do you Celebrate?

Is this something you do on a regular basis or rarely, if at all?

According to the Oxford Dictionary, to Celebrate something means to “Acknowledge (a significant or happy day or event) with a social gathering or enjoyable activity, or to reach a significant milestone or to honour someone.” Is this something that you do regularly or do you really not bother?

I believe that Celebrating events and people in our life is very important. This can be on a grand scale or a simple recognition of significant things in our lives. Let me explain. I grew up in a family that always celebrated Birthdays, Christmas, Easter and even European ‘name’ days. Any excuse and we celebrated. This tradition made these occasions stand out from the day to day and made them feel very special and unique.

As I grew older I continued to celebrate the larger events such as Christmas and Easter and the special days such as Birthdays. These were occasions to be spent with family or friends. They continue to be a celebration of love and joy and an acknowledgment of what is important to me. Everyone of us is a unique individual with various gifts and talents. We are all worth celebrating! Our birthdays are a recognition of what makes us special and unique and thus should be celebrated. They help keep us connected with others and foster healthy relationships in our life.

I recently had a birthday where we went away for a few days. This made it extra special and more significant for me and something I will always remember.

However celebrations don’t always have to be on a grand scale. It’s also important to celebrate the simple things. By doing this you are noticing the good stuff in your life. It can also be a reminder of our talents, abilities or skills and can motivate us to keep working toward our goals. By rejoicing in the small day to day things, we become more positive and this helps us to be more resilient when a stressful situation arises.

These day to day occurrences can include a new job, the end of winter, a pay rise, new clients, getting through a difficult situation or a difficult week, the arrival of a warm weekend, successfully growing a vegetable garden, booking a holiday, mastering the piano or a foreign language. Celebrate the small things as well as the large. The positive emotions these celebrations create, also benefit your health. They have been shown to reduce depression, strengthen your immune system, improve cardiovascular health, reduce stress and slow down ageing. Celebrations make the mundane extra special and remain in your memory.

By showing others our accomplishments and celebrations, we allow them to celebrate theirs.  We acknowledge our efforts, those who have supported us along the way and where we would like to go next. Celebrating puts the ‘fun’ back into life and enhances our self worth. The more we celebrate the more we nurture our body, mind and spirit. It may be a special occasion, a significant time of year, the summer solstice or the new moon. Whatever it is, remember to bring joy to the occasion.

So next time it’s your Birthday, don’t forget to make it extra special but just as importantly, remember to celebrate the small achievements in your life. For it’s the little things that make up the sum of our days.

Let me know how you are celebrating.

 

Warmest wishes,

Judy xxx

 

References: https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/celebrate, www.psychologytoday.com, www.mayoclinic.org, www.verywellmind.com. Photo: www.pixabay.com

Disclaimer: Please note that all information in this article is the opinion of the author and obtained through her research and knowledge and the above references. It is not meant to replace medical advice and a medical opinion should always be obtained for any health condition.

Gratitude …………Why giving thanks is so powerful!

 

Gratitude is the ‘quality of being thankful’ or showing appreciation for a kindness. As children we are brought up to say ‘thank you’ when we receive something.

But Gratitude is much more than a simple thank you. It is actually a very powerful emotion that helps build happiness and great health.

Showing gratitude or practising the art of gratitude means we are acknowledging the goodness in our lives. It is a much deeper emotion than just saying a simple ‘thanks’ and because it is such a deep emotion, according to psychologists, it produces longer lasting positivity.

Practising Gratitude is an art because the more we do it, the better we become at recognising the good in our lives. When we start seeing the abundance in our lives, we are in fact, saying Yes to life, that life is worth living and is rich in all aspects.

One way of doing this is by thinking of all the things that you are grateful for, every night before you go to sleep and every morning when you wake up. You can even write it down. Examples may include, giving thanks for your warm bed, a good night’s sleep, the breakfast or food on your table, the clean water you have to drink, the sun shining outside, the birdsong in your garden, the love of your family and friends.

Each day there is something to be thankful for. It may sound very simple but by showing gratitude for all the small things in your life, you are helping your body to release ‘feel good’ hormones such as oxytocin, and neurotransmitters such as dopamine and serotonin. These substances are hugely beneficial in reducing stress and depression and improving the quality of your sleep.

Gratitude has also been shown to increase blood flow and activity in the hypothalamus, the ‘master gland’ of our brain that controls the release of hormones, our metabolism and sleep cycles. The release of cortisone and Stress levels are reduced and our immune system is strengthened as a result.

As positivity increases, our attitudes change and our awareness of all that is good in our lives is highlighted. Physical ailments such as aches and pains are reduced and anxiety levels decrease.

This is not to say that we won’t have bad days or difficult days or even really sad days, but if we try and see something positive in every situation, our whole perspective changes.

When we show gratitude or appreciation for our lives, we are able to feel true joy and contentment. According to the Law of Attraction, what we focus on grows, so the more we show gratitude for the things in our lives, the more we will have to be grateful for and the more abundance we will attract.

As well as giving thanks for what you already have, each morning give thanks for what the day will bring.

According to Pam Grout in her book, ‘Thank and Grow Rich’, if you think ahead of all the things you have to do and give thanks for everything turning out to your advantage, it’s amazing what will unfold. Give thanks for arriving on time to your appointments with no traffic to hold you up, give thanks for the work you will do with ease and grace, give thanks for the sunshine when you are heading out on a walk and that the rain will hold off, give thanks that the perceived difficult appointment will go off smoothly.

If you show gratitude ahead before things have even happened, it’s amazing how often, they fall into place exactly how you envisaged they would.

The best thing is that Gratitude isn’t hard. Most of us have a roof over our heads, regular meals, an income, people that love us, we wake up each day and the sun still shines. Even amongst the most difficult situations we can find some joy or some beauty.

So why not give it a try? Before you go to sleep, think of 3 things to be grateful for. When you wake up, give thanks for 3 things that will unfold during the day. It’s easy and only takes a minute. Write it down in a journal if you like.

You will be surprised at how much happier you will feel and how more abundant your life will be.

With warmest wishes,

Judy xxx

 

 

 

 

 

 

References: www.dictionary.com, www.positivepsychologyprogram.com, www.psychologytoday.com, www.jackcanfield.com. Photo: Top Photo by Guilia Bertelli on Unsplash. Bottom Photo by Ryan Moreno on Unsplash, ‘Thank and Grow Rich’ by Pam Grout.

Are you always in Control …… and if so, why?

Many of us feel the need to always be in Control of everything in our lives. If our lives don’t run smoothly then something must be wrong. We set our alarms at the same time on most days, we stick to our morning routines and heaven help anyone who disrupts this, we go to work, come home and repeat the same the next day.

Have you ever asked yourself what would happen if things changed or you started to do things differently? Yes this might feel uncomfortable or even fearful but could it make things better? Just because something is different doesn’t mean it can’t be as good, or even better than what you had previously.

Letting go of controlling everything in your life may seem frightening, but in fact it can be incredibly liberating because it reduces stress and allows more freedom into your life.

Do you find that after a long day at work, you still have to do everything at home? Is this a choice? If so, ask yourself why? Is it about control? Do you feel that your partner would not do things as well as you e.g. cooking, cleaning or even stacking the dishwasher? (This was a big one for me). Then ask yourself, does it really matter?

I was a bit of a perfectionist and a control freak until I realised that I was stressing myself out about things that I didn’t really need to do. I ended up exhausted because I couldn’t meet the high expectations I placed on myself. I eventually discussed this with my husband and he agreed to share the cooking and chores around the house. I also learnt to ask for help.

This is something that you can do if you don’t have a choice about cooking, for example. Ask your partner or children to help prepare the meal, set the table and clean up afterwards. Yes it may not be done the way you would do it, yes it may not be perfect but why stress over the details. Does it really matter?

Can you ask the people you work with to help out? Can you delegate? Do you need to micromanage everyone and everything, or can you let go even just a little bit? You will be surprised how much better you feel when that burden of responsibility for simply everything, falls from your shoulders.

In Traditional Chinese Medicine, the Lungs and Colon are about Control. Our Lungs determine how easily we ‘breathe’ through life or whether we need to control every action and situation. Our Colon is also about control and whether we can easily let go or need to hold onto everything (and get constipated). Imbalances in both these areas of our body usually relate to some control issue and this can impact our health.

Control is also associated with Stress. If we need to control everything in our lives, we are never relaxing or letting go. What then happens when we can’t control everything? We end up irritable, angry, frustrated and stressed.

So have a look at your daily life and think about the areas where you have total control. Can you let go and give yourself some ‘breathing’ room? Can you ask for help? It can be hard and things may not be done the way you would do them, but you will get used to it and feel so much better. Your Lungs and Colon will thank you too.

Give it a try. I did and I’m so very grateful.

Warmest wishes,

Judy xxx

 

 

 

Can you Influence your Immune System?

Can you influence your Immune System? The short answer to this is, Definitely!

We don’t usually think of our Immune System and how it works unless something goes wrong. We get a cold or flu, frequent chest infections or recurrent asthma or maybe something more serious. It’s only then that we feel we may have been doing too much or are ‘run down’ or really start to consider that our Immune system may be depleted.

But how can we have an influence on it?

Our Immune System consists of a network of cells, tissues, and organs that work together to protect the body. The Bone Marrow and Thymus gland are called primary lymphoid organs because they produce our defence cells, the lymphocytes, a type of white blood cell. These are produced in the Bone Marrow and mature in the Thymus Gland.

The Thymus gland is the size of an orange in children and decreases in size with age. It was believed to have little use in adults but recent research has shown it can still have a significant function in immunity throughout our lives.

The secondary lymphatic organs are where these lymphocytes do their work. This is in the spleen, tonsils, mucous membranes of the bowel and in lymph nodes. Our lymphatic system transports these protective blood cells and removes old and damaged cells.

The Spleen acts as a filter for blood removing old or damaged red blood cells, stores platelets and white blood cells and also produces white blood cells to fight infection.

So as you can see, our Immune system works in amazing ways.

But what can we do to influence it?

Our brain and our Immune system are in constant communication with each other. If we are feeling stressed on a constant basis, our ‘flight or fight’ mechanisms kick in to help us survive. The endocrine system responds with the release of hormones such as cortisol and this severely depresses the immune system. It decreases inflammation, the production of white blood cells and increases the rate of tissue damage.

So reduction of stress is vital if we are to maintain our long term health.

A Diet high in sugar and processed foods has been shown to hamper the ability of white blood cells to fight infection so a healthy diet with plenty of whole foods, fruit and vegetables will make a huge difference.

Alcohol can affect the functioning of immune cells and increase your susceptibility to disease so look at moderating or reducing your consumption.

A good night’s sleep is vital for the replenishing of all your cells, especially your T-cells or lymphocytes so take measures to improve your sleep.

Other factors that can influence your immunity are exercise (increases circulation of antibodies and white blood cells, avoiding excessive use of antibiotics (weakens your immune system), smoking and obesity (trigger allergies and increase inflammation) and sufficient intake of water (helps remove toxins).

Regular Reflexology can have a profound affect on your Immune System too. It stimulates the functioning of your thymus gland and spleen and balances your whole body. It helps remove toxins via the liver and lymphatic system and powerfully reduces stress so your ability to fight disease is strengthened.

As you can see, there are many ways to boost your overall health and your ability to fight disease.

Can you influence your Immune System? Most definitely!

Warmest wishes,

Judy xxx

 

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References: www.corehealth.chiro.com, www.livescience.com, www.webmd.com, www.psychologytoday.com, www.rediff.com

Disclaimer: Please note that all information in this article is the opinion of the author and obtained through her research and knowledge and the above references. It is not meant to replace medical advice and a medical opinion should always be obtained for any health condition.

 

Who are your Energy Vampires……and how to get rid of them (without needing garlic).

Although we may not know it, we all have Energy Vampires in our life.

What do I mean by an Energy Vampire? Well it’s a person or event that robs you of your strength, energy and vitality. Something or someone that ‘bleeds’ you dry.

It’s that relative who is always asking you for a favour or the boss who is never satisfied with your work buts keeps asking more and more of you. It’s that friend who rings for a brief chat but is still talking to you an hour and a half later while you try to end the conversation. It’s the committee that keeps asking for your assistance although you are the one who volunteers all the time.

It’s the long queues at Christmas or the people who ring you at all times of the day or night. It’s the family members who expect you to do all the work and never step up to help themselves.

These are all Energy Vampires and we all have them in our lives at some point or other.

What can we do about them? The first step to eliminate them (and yes it is possible), is to recognise what people or events in your life drain your energy.

Once you know what they are, you can start implementing strategies to either remove them or to lessen the impact they have on you. Have a think about the people or events that cause the most fatigue or stress for you. Write them down. Remember that if you are stressed, your energy reserves are being depleted.

Start putting some strong boundaries in place around your time and energy.

If you are asked to help out, say you will let the person know. If you are too tired or really don’t want to commit, this gives you time to think about it and decide what really suits you.

If a chatty friend rings, say you only have a short time available and keep an eye on the clock. Then politely tell them you have to go.

If you boss is being unreasonably demanding, explain how you can be more productive if given extra time to finish something.

If you get phone calls out of hours, don’t answer and check your messages later. Most things can wait.

If the queues at Christmas exhaust you, shop early in the day before it’s too busy or shop online. Many things can easily be bought that way.

If family are putting unreasonable demands on you, tell them you cannot help this time.

Learn to say No and start implementing some boundaries around your availability and your time. You will find that some people may not like this but that’s okay. We are not here to please everyone.

Give yourself time to think before agreeing to something. The more you do to respect yourself and your own needs, the more energy you will have. The more you learn to say No, the more people will respect your boundaries.

People are often unaware of the amount of stress they cause or the energy they take from you. This may be because their own boundaries are weak. Be an example for them so that they can rethink the way they treat others and themselves.

Learn to prioritise what is important in your life. Do more of the things that fill your soul, make you happy and revitalise you. Let go of what isn’t important or delegate it to another day.

Let go of these vampires. Put yourself first and you won’t need any garlic. I can guarantee it!

 

Warmest wishes,

Judy xxx

 

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Who is the most Important Person in Your Life?

I recently asked this question in a Facebook business group and the answers were interesting. Many people said, “Their children are the most important people in their lives, or Their partners. Others said the answer was ‘Themselves’.

If you had asked me this question some time ago I would have said, My son. Although my thoughts still  immediately go to him, my answer today would be ME.

As a parent, especially when children are small, their needs tend to take priority. This is necessary for their survival. In our workplace, we may have demanding bosses and sometimes unrealistic deadlines need to be adhered to. However it doesn’t mean that your needs should not be met at the same time.

You may think that putting yourself first is selfish or inconsiderate. After all we were brought up to think of others and their needs. This meant that we would grow up unselfish and caring adults. However what happened to me and many others like me, was we totally forgot our own needs and prioritised everyone else first.

As a result, I kept giving until I had nothing left to give and became burnt out. I ended up tired and exhausted not knowing how to change this cycle without offending someone or hurting someone’s feelings by saying, ‘No’. I felt that I always had to be in control, or else nothing was done the way I thought it needed to be done.

Running a sole business certainly tests your Self Care. I would answer the phone at all hours of the day and night to attend to queries. I did not value myself in the prices I charged or in the hours I worked. Slowly I realised what I was doing and how it was affecting me and I now have strict boundaries around ME.

I learn’t to have boundaries around how others treat me and how I treat myself. If I am asked to help out I will say, ‘I’ll let you know’ and then give myself time to see if it suits me or my needs.

If I am tired I will have an early night and not stay up just to please my partner. When I am invited somewhere I will  see how I feel before accepting. I have learned to give myself more space and more time out. I learned to value my time and have stronger boundaries around what is acceptable or not. I have learned to let go of the control and ask for help when I need it.

By giving myself more time and learning to ask for help, I have become happier, more relaxed and more valued. Most importantly, I learnt to value myself!

The more you value and respect yourself, the more others will do the same. The more we fill our own well, the more we will have available to fill the well of others. If we are depleted we have nothing to give, however if we care for ourselves and our own needs first, we can then be there for others in a caring and whole hearted way.

When my son was small, I placed his needs ahead of mine all the time. I realise now that this was not a great example to guide him by as he would grow up repeating my patterns. Luckily I have realised this and am able to advise him otherwise.

I am not asking you to choose between yourself and your family. I am discussing this to raise awareness  about how much value we place on ourselves. Your family, your work and your friends are important but so are You! Remember that the more emphasis you place on your needs and self care, the more you will be available to help others.

So today if I am asked, Who is the Most Important Person in my Life, I can happily say, ME.

What about you?

 

Warmest wishes,

Judy xxx

 

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